Apparently 80% of divorces are not mutual, in other words 4/5ths of people on the receiving end of a divorce petition did not want it to happen.
Given that 70% of divorces are filed by women, this would suggest that there are a lot of unhappy men out there trying to work out what went wrong. Maybe you married the wrong person? Maybe you could never make a woman happy because you are too controlling, selfish (add in what suits, a quick flick through the divorce petition might help to work it out)? Or maybe marriage is just too hard?
What about marrying your equal next time?
Someone with the same amount of cash as you, the same intelligence, the same looks, the same career prospects. I thought this was a great idea and my single friends discussed it to death. One even went on a retreat and compiled a shopping list for a man. I must admit, I thought she was being over fussy as the list was longer than my weekly food shop, but… she has found a man that ticks all the boxes! Fingers crossed it works out for them.
Anyway, I realised that marrying your equal does not guarantee success any more than marrying a tycoon or the milkman. This hit home when I read the following article in the DAILY TELEGRAPH.
It’s about movie stars marrying movie stars and the difficulty of keeping a marriage together in Hollywood.
The main point seems to be that although madly in love to begin with they fell out of love.
Why do people get divorced?.. because they don’t love each other any more. Sad but true!